My beloved Pa died on the 19th December, 2010. Very quickly after his death we realised that Ma's 'forgetfulness' was something considerably more and that Pa had been shouldering this burden for some time. In fairness to him he had asked the GP for a referral to a dementia specialist but sadly this and her diagnosis didn't happen until after his death.
For short periods of time mum comes across as perfectly ok but inevitably something will be said or done which shows quite clearly that all is not well. One symptom of dementia is the gradual increase in inappropriate comments and behaviour, sometimes it is amusing (diso dancing to the musak in Debenhams) but more often it causes a sharp intake of breath (casual racism is currently a favourite). Other symptoms include memory loss, aggression, false memory, confusion and loss of faculties.
At the present time I have taken up the role of mum's main carer and I've created this blog because sometimes you need somewhere to put your thoughts and feelings. I hope that other carers will feel able to come in here to find support and share experiences.