My mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2010. This is a blog about coming to terms with her absent mind.

Thursday, 7 July 2011


A couple of quiet days.

Yesterday I went out and got some gel pens and we started on her memory book. I think we need to keep to three or four questions each time because she kept going back to them all the way until bedtime and quite frankly, we have enough circular conversations as it is.

I made a fantastic moussaka, probably the best I've ever made and which predictably, Ma didn't like. So she had a frozen ready meal thing which she pronounced 'delicious' :rolls eyes: I'll be doing that version of moussaka again even though Ma has just checked that I'm not giving her 'that thing' for tea again tonight!

Today she started looking for clothes to wear for her weekend away next Friday. So a slightly bizarre fashion parade ensued. My favourite was the black and white shirt and shorts ensemble paired with a pink and green flowery jacket and purple stilettos.

Other than discovering that she's been 'moisurising' her face with shower cream for the last few days resulting in chronically dry, flaky skin, asking me at least 12 times when she is going to Bryan's and when Simon is coming (he isn't) it has been a quiet, calm sort of a day.


  1. I'm just catching up on your Blog, but will follow to keep pace! Take care.... !

  2. You need to have the patience of a Saint , woman...........such a shame I know you haven't (said with MUCH love.........) E xxx

  3. Hi Bee,I have some info on how to do a life story book if your interested.Love reading your blog:)

  4. Charlotte (hc)7 July 2011 at 21:48

    Just had a good catch up as not had a read for a while! I think you're an absolute saint and really admire you and how you cope with your Mum xx

  5. I need your Moussaka recipe! xx