My mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2010. This is a blog about coming to terms with her absent mind.

Monday, 9 January 2012

Monday Musings

There's definitely been a change in behaviour over the last couple of weeks. I wonder if it has anything to do with being in respite care and having a break in routine. Since getting back from Cornwall I've had a proper night's sleep every single night. I'm hesitant to mention it in case I jinx things but now that it's been a full five nights I think it's safe...

Other new things.

When she's not in anxious mode she's very lethargic and if I let her she'd stay in bed all day. This also means that she's in permanent misery mode, either hunched and weepy on the sofa/in bed or hunched and weepy on her tour around the house. I'm sure not eating has a lot to do with this.

Using cutlery is too much of a challenge, even a spoon can be tricky, but she can do it if helped to remember.

Just discovered that banging on the window to try and attract attentnion of passing pedestrians is a new sport.


Sheila popped round from next door and commented on how much weight Ma has lost. I explained how difficult it is to get Ma to eat so she suggested trying soup or toast - gosh I never thought of that. She clearly thinks I'm an idiot.

We've had the usual hassle about going to see M&V today, so we did because I wanted to collect some eggs off them. On the way I nipped into the post office and when I came out she'd sprayed the inside of my car with de-icer so had to drive up the road with the windows wide open to try and get rid of the fumes (de-icer now in boot). I was three sips into my cup of tea before she wanted to leave...

We've just done battle over a slice of toast and a poached egg. I didn't win but she did eat about half of it.

At the moment Pointless is on but she's on a mission to go somewhere so keeps trying the door and getting very annoyed that I'm not going with her. I have a banging headache from quite a stressy day so I'm hoping she's willing to go to bed early and stay there. However, because I really want this to happen I'm not taking any bets on it!


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  1. I cant believe you hadn't thought of soup Bee. You are a bad bad girl.

    I love some of the "advice" we receive as carers. If only things were so simple.